Small acts of kindness this Advent - Emma Coonan

Against the backdrop of the first cold snap of the season, some are already dusting off the seasonal tinsel and twinkle lights. While this might seem far too early for those of us who will wait until December is truly upon is, it is almost time for Advent, an event that can be a welcome time for many.

Starting on Sunday, Advent brings with it an opportunity for reflection, preparation, and, for many, the promise of new beginnings. Originating from the Latin word ‘adventus,’ meaning ‘arrival’ or ‘something to come,’ Advent marks the beginning of preparations for Christmas.

For some, this time for reflection and hope may feel very far away, as many near and far are still reeling from the damage left by recent storms. As I read about our neighbours in Cork, amongst others, who are picking up the pieces following Storm Bert, I found myself reflecting on whether it is possible to keep wellbeing in mind, in the face of so many more immediate challenges.

Wellbeing comes in many forms

It is easy, and sometimes may even feel necessary, to put the idea of our wellbeing to one side when we are faced with very immediate challenges, like flooding and weather damage. The impact of winter storms can be severe. Unexpected damage can interrupt our businesses, invade our homes, and create expenses we did not plan for, and perhaps cannot afford. This can be a very anxious time.

As I followed stories online this week about flooding damage around the country, as well as global floods effecting many lives, it struck me that wellbeing might seem like a luxury when you are standing in three feet of water in your living room, or worse, staring at a space that was once your village, now submerged.

While we can often associate the idea of wellbeing with images of yoga classes and quiet retreats away from the busy world, wellbeing comes in many other forms. Often it is the smaller acts of kindness and necessity as we help our neighbours and communities during times of trouble that breed real wellbeing in our lives.

Small Acts of Kindness

Each year I am always comforted when I revisit the four themes of Advent– Hope, Peace, Joy, and Love – as I am reminded of the importance of each of these themes in our everyday lives. In many ways they can be some of the most basic yet perhaps most important experiences, not only during Advent, but throughout our lifetimes.

These themes of course may feel alien to those who are facing crisis this week. When it comes to wellbeing, it is well researched that helping our fellow person where and when we can has huge benefits for our own health. We are naturally attuned to operating as part of a community, and so when we can contribute and help out it helps us to feel good, as well as the person we have lent a hand to.

So why not start this Advent by adding some community spirit into your wellbeing routine where you can, no matter how small. Taking a minute to speak to someone on the street, or simply to ask them how they are doing, can mean just as much as getting involved in bigger local efforts, and the positive wellbeing effects for all involved can feel just as rewarding.

The Promise of Better Times to Come

With this community spirit in mind, it seems fitting that Hope is the first theme of Advent. While we might not always be in a position to offer material support to others, it is important to remember that support, as well as wellbeing, also comes in many forms.

As I was reflecting on Advent this week for this article, I found myself thinking about my first ever article for this paper, which was an Advent series. Against the backdrop of a pandemic I certainly wondered at the time if better times would ever come. I also remember how much people came together and found the light wherever they could.

Although the crisis of a pandemic is largely behind us, these lessons borrowed from a time of crisis can still support us today. So as Advent begins this week, why not take some time to consider small acts of support and kindness that have benefited your wellbeing, and might, if revisited, also serve to benefit another, be it stranger or friend.

A final thought...

It can feel difficult to consider wellbeing when you are standing in the eye of, or the aftermath of, the storm. However, it is important to remember that often it is when things seem darkest, that the smallest acts of kindness can light the way.

Roscrea's Emma Coonan is an Accredited Psychotherapist with IAHIP and ICP, Lectures in Psychotherapy, and is a qualified Adult Education Trainer. After leaving Coláiste Phobal Roscrea, Emma studied English and Media in Maynooth University, before combining her Psychotherapy training with experience in the corporate world. Emma focuses on applying Psychotherapy practices for everyday living, through developing resilience, stress response, and mindfulness practice.