ORGANISING a wedding can take a long time and once you have decided on the date, venue and dress, there are still other things to sort out.
Possibly one of the more exciting ‘jobs’ is choosing a wedding gift list, which provides the unique opportunity for you to choose what you would like your friends and family to buy for you to celebrate your big day. But you do need to be clever about the service you choose, otherwise this too could become less of a delight, and more of a chore!
First of all you should make sure that you have started looking for your wedding list service at least two months before you plan to send out the invitations. Before you start, ask recently married friends where they had their list and whether they were happy with the service or what they would have improved. This will help you to ask the right questions when you check out the various options.
Now-a-days many couples have lived together for sometime before getting married and are often tempted to ask for cash donations. This is not something we would recommend, as it’s very impersonal and guests tend to prefer to give a gift, rather than cash.
Others don’t ask for anything at all because they feel it is bad manners to do so. But your guests will want to buy you a gift to celebrate your marriage.
That’s why providing them with a gift list will make their life easier and ensure that you don’t receive too many photo frames, glasses or random ornaments which are not to your taste. Today it is perfectly acceptable, if not good manners, to give your guests suggestions for your wedding gifts.
Then when it comes to choosing items for your list, be methodical and make a list of the things you really want – go through all the rooms of your home and decide what you would like to add or replace.
Many guests will buy as couples or families, so you need about two-thirds as many gifts as you have guests. You will also be surprised how generous your guests are. They generally spend between €50 and €100, but especially relatives tend to spend more.
Many guests also prefer to buy you something special, so try and include as many stand alone presents as possible and don’t be afraid to include some unusual and quirky presents