Operation Transformation watch with Dr Eddie

The highs of the first week’s weight loss was evident for the leaders and propelled them into week two. There is a real sense of momentum. Believe me the leaders will need it as the targets become harder to reach.

The highs of the first week’s weight loss was evident for the leaders and propelled them into week two. There is a real sense of momentum. Believe me the leaders will need it as the targets become harder to reach.

The overall weight loss goals from the starting weights are 10% for the leaders. The Operation Transformation walks nationwide were a major success and if you took part take a bow. As the clinical psychologist on the show I am interested in the inner changes for the leaders not just their weight goals.

To this end I have been pushing my agenda for the leaders to become their “real selves”. This is my invitation to you.

Becoming your ‘Real Self‘

So often in my clinic I meet the most wonderful people who are committed to finding new ways to end their emotional pains – panic, fear, sadness, anxiety, depression, anger, relationship conflicts, trauma etc. They knew where they want to go but don’t have the map.

What I often find is that the people I work with engage in the world without portraying their “real self”. The therapeutic journey is about facilitating the person to find and take the risk of expressing their “real self”. Too often this is suppressed by feelings of fear, low self worth, inadequacy, shame, etc.

So when do you deny your “real self”?

• Do you feel fearful and anxious have panic attacks but hide them to show that you are great at cope and getting on at things.

• Do you feel sad, tired and lonely and visit your GP for lost of physical ailments and don’t tell them how you are feeling because you are afraid of what your GP (or even family) might think and say

• Have you legitimate things to say and suppress them for example the adult daughter who is the over-burdened caring for an elderly relative while other brothers and sisters do not take responsibility.

• Or the mum or dad who finds it easier not to tackle the outrageous demands of their teenager. Or you are in a work or home situation and being bullied?

If you too often “keep the peace”, you are denying your “real self”. The outcome of this is continual unhappiness. The challenge is to find your voice and your real self. Imagine a place where you feel joyful, hopeful where you feel and act courageous (little step by little step). Here are some things to try.

Top Tips

1. Make new connections or renew old ones. Good relationships with close family members, friends, or others are important. Accepting help and support from those who care about you and will listen to you strengthens resilience. Some people find that being community groups, church activities, or other local groups provides social support and can help with reclaiming hope. Assisting others in their time of need also can benefit the helper.

2. Avoid seeing crises as insurmountable problems. You can’t change the fact that highly stressful events happen, but you can change how you interpret and respond to these events. Try looking beyond the present to how future circumstances may be a little better. Note any subtle ways in which you might already feel somewhat better as you deal with difficult situations.

3. Accept that change is a part of living. Certain goals may no longer be attainable as a result of adverse situations. Accepting circumstances that cannot be changed can help you focus on circumstances that you can alter.

4. Move toward your goals. Develop some realistic goals. Do something regularly even if it seems like a small accomplishment, that enables you to move toward your goals. Instead of focusing on tasks that seem unachievable, ask yourself, “What’s one thing I know I can accomplish that helps me move in the direction I want to go?”

5. Take decisive actions. Act on adverse situations as much as you can. Take decisive actions, rather than detaching completely from problems and stresses and wishing they would just go away.

6. Look for opportunities for self-discovery. People often learn something about themselves and may find that they have grown in some respect as a result of their struggle with loss. Many people who have experienced tragedies and hardship have reported better relationships, greater sense of strength even while feeling vulnerable, increased sense of self-worth, a more developed spirituality, and heightened appreciation for life.

7. Nurture a positive view of yourself. Developing confidence in your ability to solve problems and trusting your instincts helps build resilience.

8. Keep things in perspective. Even when facing very painful events, try to consider the stressful situation in a broader context and keep a long-term perspective. Avoid blowing the event out of proportion.

9. Maintain a hopeful outlook. An optimistic outlook enables you to expect that good things will happen in your life. Try visualizing what you want, rather than worrying about what you fear.


As well as his counselling practice, Dr Eddie does talks, training and workshops for school, community, voluntary, sporting and work groups. Call 087 1302899 or visit www.dreddiemurphy.ie


Dr Eddie Murphy runs a psychology and counselling practice in Portarlington, helping with panic attacks, anxiety, anger, depression, PTSD, etc for children, adults and families. Call 087 1302899 or visit www.dreddiemurphy.ie